Love and Emotions


by Anna Katharina on May 31, 2012

in Journal,Love and Emotions,Nurse Quad

“There would be no one to frighten you if you refused to be afraid.”
-Mohandas K. Gandhi

One of the topics discussed in a nursing psychiatry class is about phobia. A phobia is an anxiety disorder characterized by obsessive, irrational, and intense fear of a specific object, an activity, or a physical situation.

The irrational fear usually results from early painful or unpleasant experiences during childhood involving a particular object or situation especially.

I asked my students to list down their phobia and these were what they mentioned : fear of height (Acrophobia), insects  (Acrophobia) such as coach roach and spider (Arachnophobia) , snake, fear of darkness (Achluophobia) and being alone (Autophobia) , fear of death (Thanatophobia) and dying were the most commonly mentioned phobia. Two students said they fear dogs (Cynophobia) due to a previous  dog bite. A student said he is afraid of clowns (Coulrophobia) because of the color of their faces.

Based on my experience with my patients I have dealt with for the last 15 years, the needle (Aichmophobia, fear of needles) and syringe used for intramuscular injection is a common source of fear. The mere sight of the injection created anxiety especially among male patients. In a private hospital for children where I attended training, nurses were discouraged in wearing an all-white uniform because this gave rise to fear of nurses or doctors among pediatric patients.

      Read this article about fear among children.

My fears? I fear snakes since I was a child, but lately I fear heights and closed spaces (Claustrophobia).  I believe that as one gets older, you become fearful of a lot of things.

“Anti-Violence Against Women and Children Law or Republic Act 9262 of 2004″

“ RA 9262 penalizes the commission of violence against women their children (VAWC) in the context of domestic violence or violence in intimate relationships. It defines VAWC as any act or a series of acts committed by any person against a woman who is his wife, former wife, or with whom the person has or had a sexual or dating relationship, or with whom he has a common child, or against her child whether legitimate or illegitimate, within or without the family abode, which results in or is likely to result in physical, sexual, psychological harm or suffering, or economic abuse including threats of such acts, battery, assault, coercion, harassment or arbitrary deprivation of liberty.

Furthermore, the Law recognizes “Battered Woman Syndrome” which refers to a scientifically defined pattern of psychological or behavioral symptoms found in women living in battering relationships as a result of cumulative abuse, as an acceptable defense for actions committed by the victim as a result of battering.”

Who is at risk for domestic violence?

Here 2 tools used by doctors and professionals to help determine your risk for domestic violence.
They are the Lethality Checklist and the Physical Abuse Ranking Scale. These two can determine what you should watch out for in a relationship.

Lethality Checklist:
Count the items that apply to your current relationship. The higher the number of items from this list, the greater your danger potential.

  1. Objectifies you (calls you names, body parts, animals): (Tinatawag ka lang ng kung anu-anung pangalan .
  2. Blames you for injuries (Sinisisi ka sa mga pinsalang nangyari sa inyong katawan o kapaligiran)
  3. Is unwilling to turn you lose ( Ayaw kang pakawalan o mawala)
  4. Is obsessed with you ( nahuhumaling siya sa iyo na itituring ka na niyang isang pag aari na parang kalakal)
  5. Is hostile, angry, or furious ( palagi kang sinasalungat, nanlalaban, o galit nagalit)
  6. Appears distraught (Mukhang palaging nababahala o balisa)
  7. Is extremely jealous, blaming you for all types of promiscuous behavior (sobrang magselos, at sinisisi kang madalas sa immoral o mahalay na paguugali)
  8. Has been involved in previous incidents of significant violence (Nasangkot na siya dati sa ibang karahasan)
  9. Has killed pets (nakapatay na ng mga alaganag hayop)

10.  Has made threats (mayroon na siyang ginawang pagbabanta)]
11.  Has made previous suicide attempts (mayroon ng ginawang pagtatangka  magpakamatay sa sarili niyang  buhay)
12.  Is threatening suicide (nagbabantang magpapakamatay)
13.  Has access to guns  (pwedeng makakauha o mayroon baril)
14.  Uses alcohol (umiinom ng alak)
15.  Uses amphetamines, cocaine, or other drugs ( gumagamit ng mga pinagbabawal na gamot)
16.  Has thoughts of hurting you (may saloobin o nag plaplano na sasaktan ka.
17.  Has no desire to stop violent or controlling behavior ( walang pagnanais na huminto o pigilin ang sarili sa marahas na pag uugali
18.  Has a relationship with you that is extremely tense and volatile ( ang relasyon siyo ay maigting o sumpungin)

Physical Abuse Ranking Scale:

The scale depicts increasing risk with increasing number  (’1′ representing low risk and ’9′ highest risk).
Any violent act greater than 5 on this scale indicates a high danger potential.

  1. Throwing things, punching the wall
  2. Pushing, shoving, grabbing, throwing things at you
  3. Slapping with an open hand
  4. Kicking, bitinga
  5. Hitting with closed fists
  6. Attempted strangulation
  7. Beating up, pinning to the wall or floor, repeated kicks and punches
  8. Threatening with a weapon
  9. Assault with a weapon


Second Chance To Love

by Anna Katharina on April 18, 2011

in Family,Journal,Love and Emotions

”Love doesn’t always last. Sometimes if we are lucky enough, it can be found again, and it remains forever.”

Showbiz couples have their ups and downs in terms of love matters. Ogie Alcasid and Regine Velaquez tied the knot last year. It was Ogie’s second marriage, but it was Regine’s first. How many showbiz couples were of the same situation, to have a second chance to love and be married again? It has happened to Sharon Cuneta, Vilma Santos, Nora Aunor and Kris Aquino, who have lost their love only to regain their hearts blissfully.

Weddings make me cry because of their promise and vow to one another to be together for better or for worst, for richer or poorer. But different situations do happen and that vow may remain as words eventually losing its very essence. The once blissful relationship may come to an end and one might not even know the true reasons why.

I believe a lost love is not the end. There will always be a second chance to love and to be cared for.

For whatever reason you have lost your love, think of others who have had their second chance to love. Is it lovelier the second time around? It must be, because as one goes through a relationship you are more mature, you can handle better one’s emotion, and most especially you know what’s best and what you like, you are sure of the traits you like, and can distinguish or predict the other’s behavior.

Here’s a very apt poem ….

A Second Chance To Love Again

by MaryGrace Patterson

Love doesn’t always last. Sometimes if we are lucky enough, it can be found again, and it remains forever (A repost with a title change)

Most are fortunate to have one true love in their lives.

For others it comes again, like a gentle breeze, caressing the tendrils of life.

Love stirs the soul,opening it to the beauty of special moments and feelings sublime.

The heart is enriched , made new, as love’s rapture encases it, holding tight, to be etched forever in tabloids of time ……..

What I want for Christmas

by Anna Katharina on December 15, 2010

in Blogging,Family,Journal,Love and Emotions,Traditions

It’s 10 days before Christmas and 5 days to go to finish my shopping and grocery needs for the special day. Of course it will be a celebration for the whole family.

Christmas celebration was different when I was 7, it was about Christmas party in school with our homemade party hat.

When I was 15, it was attending misa de gallo with friends; kris kringle with friends, preparation for the school’s Christmas party and the dress that one has to wear. The outing after the party was the most awaited.

When I was 22, it was Christmas day with a significant other and dinner at home. I was involved with decorating the home, wrapping gifts and cooking for Christmas day.

At 30, it was a meaningful Christmas, this time being a mom to two kids; a Christmas tree adorned the house.  Family reunion was the biggest event.

At 39, Christmas did come, it was an unforgettable Christmas, there were gifts, Christmas party, family reunions, shopping and all that. I just wanted to be alone and shunned all gatherings.

At 49, I am thinking what I really want for Christmas, maybe a time for myself where I can do the things I like, a time to reflect on things that make me happy. I am not sure what really makes me happy? Its just that I want to do things that I only like or want. Maybe this is one of my “blue days”. Move on please. PMS go away!

It might not be the same Christmas as we used to but still it will be with my kids and other family members.

Please listen to me at Online Doktora….. my gift this Christmas for you and me!